On elaine's loss...

You know.. i know how that is... and hard it is to get over losing something so precious despite the fact that it may be some inexpensive piece of costume jewellery. It is the significance it holds for oneself. This is exactly how i felt when i lost the very first necklace he put on me the day we left for london, at the beginning of the r/s. I never took the necklace off and it went everywhere.. i think it was the first gift he has ever given me as a couple and it IS special. So the day the necklace fell off without me noticing it, i was a wreck. Totally and completely. Especially when it was at a time when our r/s was rocky. I blamed myself over and over again. Despite the fact that afterwards he surfed the internet and got me a new one which was quite like the old one, it was not quite the same. The attachment just wasn't there anymore. No matter how much i tried and before long, the new necklace tarnished and i never felt like i needed it to be replaced... and i still missed the old one so.. So much...

I still have the other piece of jewellery of significance for me (my trinity ring) though the necklace will always have a special place in my heart because it was the first. But i have come to also realized that my attachment to the person, as objectified by the necklace, is still there and that too, never changed. I guess it is important too despite the loss, and that helped me move on.

Dear elaine, I don't know if it makes any sense.. but i really feel for your loss. *hugz*